While you might be going through a rough divorce right now, and you might have nary a good word to say about your soon to be ex, you have to take a step back for a moment. While you may despise one another currently, there was a time when you cared deeply for each other, and that love helped to create the children that you have today. No matter how you feel about your ex, you have to make sure that you do not draw the children into this battle. Instead, you should always strive to make this difficult time as easy as possible for the kids. You need to make sure that you are thinking about what is actually best for them.
In a perfect world, the parents would do their best to spend an equal amount of time with the kids. While it might not be possible to come up with an equal schedule, you should be able to come to an equitable agreement with your ex. Try to make the schedule as consistent and as simple as possible so that your kids can get into the routine.
When you are creating a schedule, it is going to be necessary to work with your ex, and this could be difficult. Mediators to help with the visitation process might be the answer. Make sure that you consider your children’s feelings and needs before you consider your own. It might not always be what you want, but it might be what is best for them.