As an accomplished divorce lawyer, I have seen too many clients not provide themselves with what will help them through the emotionally charged and complex process of divorce: self-care. Whether you are going through an amicable or a contentious divorce, you are being pulled in different, stressful directions and experiencing waves of transitions. Thus, it is even more important to take care of yourself physically and mentally. By doing so, you can come out of the divorce stronger and positive. You will be thinking not that it is an end to a marriage, but a new beginning in your life.
In over 15 years as a practicing divorce lawyer, I have seen the clients who spend a couple of hours a week on self-care feel more grounded, healthier, at peace, and ready to find love again. Self-care is necessary no matter who or what you are: male, female, young, or old.
What Does Self-Care Include?
This does not necessarily mean going to a spa, indulging in pampering, or taking long bubble baths. Rather, positive self-care can include:
- meetings with a life coach or wellness consultant,
- doing yoga,
- mediating or breathing exercises,
- working out,
- writing down your negative thoughts and then destroying them (symbolic of ridding yourself of negativity), or even
- spending time socializing with people who make you laugh, inspire you, and/or make you feel better about yourself.
As a seasoned divorce lawyer, I have seen people take on new hobbies like painting, cooking, climbing, playing a sport, or hiking. And as a positive consequence, they are making new friends.
When you are going through a divorce, the proceedings and issues are foremost in your mind, creating more stress, anxiety, and negative thoughts that affect your mental health and bleeds into your physical health. This is why it is crucial to set aside time to care for your well-being. By doing so, you revitalize yourself mentally, physically, and even emotionally.
Buy Out the Time to Take Care of Yourself – You’ll Thank Yourself Later
Having handled many cases as a divorce lawyer, I have seen that the people who survive their divorce and come out stronger are those who perform self-care at least an hour a week. And let’s be real. If you don’t schedule the time, you won’t end up doing it. So make sure to put your self-care in your calendar. And each self-care hour, do something that makes you feel amazing, special, and unique. Not only will you gain the strength to persevere, but also the perspective to know the path you are on is right for you.